TEACHING YOUR CHILD GOOD STUDY HABITS
A willingness to work hard is key to success. In every aspect of life, it is true: in marriage, in parenthood, in friendship, at work. It’s also crucial for school success. Striving matters. There is a direct connection between the amount of work involved in studies and the amount children learn.
Although the American work ethic continues to be vital, we sometimes resist this truth when it comes to education. We can put faith in innate intelligence as the secret of the achievement of schools.
The ” intelligent ” children go to the front of the class, while the ” slow ” children are left. When their children do poorly in school, parents often conclude that they are ” not cut out for the classroom, ” or that they are ” not testing well. ” Or that it is the fault of the school, or that too many demands are placed on children these days or some other excuse. It’s a convenient philosophy, one that gets many parents off the hook in their own minds at least.
There are different beliefs in other parts of the world. The distinguished psychologist Harold Stevenson studied parents’ and students ‘ attitudes toward school success in the United States and in several Asian countries wherein international tests students outscore ours. He found that Asian parents do not have so much intelligence. They associate learning success with hard work. They believe that the time spent studying leads to academic curriculum mastery. Effort is counting.
This conviction is transmitted continually to children. It is depicted, for example, in a story about the ancient poet Li Po, who is reported to readers of Chinese elementary school. One day Li walked by a stream when he saw an old woman sitting next to a rock grinding an iron hunk. He asked her what she was doing. “Making a needle,” she answered. Li Po asked her, puzzled, how such a large piece of iron can be ground in a needle. “Everything you need is perseverance,” said the old woman to him. ” A piece of iron can be ground into a needle if you have the will and don’t fear hardship. ” Li Po went on, but the old woman ‘s words wouldn’t leave his mind. He realized that if he didn’t study hard, he would never progress. From that day he was a diligent student.
The belief that academic achievement is achieved through steady and dedicated work in Asia is widespread. Certainly, some students don’t learn as fast as others. They have to study longer and harder. As the Chinese proverb says, ” The slow bird must start early. ” Although it can fly at different speeds, all children can learn through continuous effort and most children can achieve basic academic goals.
It is important that you promote the same faith in your home that hard work is the key to success in school. It is one of your most solemn parenting responsibilities. As your child grows, let her know that it is a priority to study. There will be a lot of joy in learning, but at the same time, determined efforts must be made. Make your child understand that practically everything else must take precedence: watching TV, playing with toys, talking to friends, sports. Cultivate the ideals you express, the rules you set, the behavior you model and the encouragement you give in your home.
Another important task is to help your child learn how to study. It takes some skills. Children are not born with these concepts and foundations. They must be developed, meaning that adults must take the time and the responsibility to show the way to young people. When students sit routinely the night before a test, look at their books, go to school the next day and fail (” I tried, but I can’t learn this stuff! “), the problem is often that nobody really taught them the art of studying well. You might think at this stage: isn’t the school taking care of these things? Maybe, but don’t count on it. Parents today cannot assume that their schools train children in good learning skills. Even if your school is at home, teachers still need you to strengthen their efforts. Studying is practicing conscientiously. It takes a desire to work. To most children, these things don’t come naturally. They should be fostered by parents and teachers alike.